Sober Reading

Happy Monday my homies and homettes. I hope that you enjoy your morning, noon, evening or night to the fullest, and make sure to stay clean or sober.

Even though I’ve been sober for a little over a month now, I’m looking for things to do, in order to keep my crazy mind busy. But I want to make sure, that I don’t get involved in things that I will later hate or will become boring.

One thing that I have loved since I was a young teenager is reading. And trust me, I have a couple of books I bought a while back, that are screaming to get read. So, I will get started with that soon, while I figure out what’s my next move.

With that said, I am Audi 5000 y’all!

Sobriety Counter: 37 Days = 1 Month And 6 Days

Don't Be A Dry Drunk!

Good morning and Happy Sunday my homies and homettes. I hope that you enjoy your day to the best of your ability. Remember to take it one day at a time, but if you are a weekend binge drinker like me, then take it one weekend at a time.

I have to say, that yesterday, while I was walking my furbaby Nino, I felt great. The temperature was warmer than normal here in New York City, but it was a little windy. And to be honest, just being sober and feeling the warm wind touch my body, was amazing. I felt like if I was experiencing it for the first time in my life.

There were a lot of things that I took for granted while I was drinking. So now, since I’m sober, I’m taking my time to enjoy them. Try to do the same kids, don’t just sit around thinking about the past and what could have been, read a book, go out for a walk, do something. But for God’s sake, don’t be a dry drunk.

With that said, I am Audi 5000 y’all!

Sobriety Counter: 36 Days = 1 Month And 5 Days

My Saturday Adventures

Good afternoon and happy Saturday my homies and homettes. I hope that you are having a great day.

As for me? I really can’t complain about shit my peeps. As usual, I woke up at around 4:00 am, took a bath, got dressed, gave food to my furbaby, went to a restaurant for my weekend breakfast and alone time, went home and did the dishes, did coffee and bought breakfast for my blind father in law, did some sweeping and moping, drove my wife to a doctor’s appointment, had lunch with my wife, ran some errands with her, and finally, when we got home, I took my furbaby for his midday walk and put fresh water in his water bowl.

Do you want to know what the best thing about my whole day was? That because I am sober, I got to enjoy every minute of it.

With that said, I am Audi 5000 y’all!

Sobriety Counter: 35 Days = 1 Month And 4 Days

I've Never Clicked With AA

OK boys and girls, yesterday after I dropped off my little princess and her boyfriend at home from the airport, I did get to see my shrink Dr. C, and I have to say, that it was great. He was very happy that I have been sober for 1 month and 2 days… but… you know that there is always a big fat BUT… BUT… he asked me if I had been going to AA meetings, as he previously suggested. At which time I didn’t want my nose to grow, so I said no. Plus I don’t hide shit from him, because if I do, then he won’t be able to help my crazy ass.

You see, the thing is, that even though 8 years ago, I voluntarily put myself in a 30 days inpatient alcohol rehab facility in upstate New York for my weekend binge drinking, and I stayed sober for 5 years after that, I have never been able to click with Alcoholic Anonymous. Dr C knows this, because he became my shrink, right after I was released from rehab for good behavior… OK, after my 30 days were up.

OK, I’m not gonna go into deep, deep details here, but let me put it the same way that I put it to Dr C. My balls were getting literally irritated, every time that the same people, who have been sober for 5, 10, 15 and even 20 years, kept sharing the same old stories at different meetings, and started to cry, like the shit just happened yesterday. I mean, if I had been sober for so many years, trust me, I would have been crying… but from so much fucking joy, not sadness. So, I got tired of the same shit, and that is the reason why I never clicked with AA.

With that said, I am Audi 5000 y’all!

Today I have Been Sober For 1 Month And 3 Days!

I'm Off To See My Shrink

Later today, when I get released from the salt mines for good behavior. I’m heading straight to see my shrink Dr. C. I know that he is going to be pleased with me, because I’ve stayed sober since I saw him last month. But one thing that I will be talking to him about is, my uncontrollable worrying and overthinking things. I know that I don’t have control over everything that will happen in life, but sometimes, my OCD plays tricks on.

Aside from the crazy meds, I really like talk therapy, because when I walk out of Dr. C’s office, it feels like if a ton of bricks was lifted from my shoulders.

OK kids, forget about all the shit that I said above. As I’ve always said, married men, specially the ones with children cant’s make plans for shit, because there’s always a last minute change by some higher power or powers, and this is my case in point.

So here I go! When I was almost ready to head on out to the salt mines this morning, my 29 year old daughter, who is on vacation with her boyfriend in The Dominican Republic, called me. She wanted to let me know, that they were on their way to the airport. If you have adult children, you know that’s not the end of the story. She also mentioned… here it goes… that they didn’t have someone to pick them up at the airport, when they land in New York City. I bet a million dollars, that you can see where this is going, RIGHT!?

So, since my wife had a doctor’s appointment, which at the time, she didn’t know had been canceled, guess who was the the next person in the royal hierarchy? YEAP! That’s right… The big cheese, the big kahuna, the main man, the fat cat, el presidente, el hombre, the man, the so called boss… ME!

So, me being the loving dad that I have always been, always taking care of his little princess, had to call my stupidvisor and put in for a vacation day. I’m still going to see my shrink at 5:30 pm, but I have to pick them up at the airport at around 1:30 pm. Now you see why married men with children can’t make plans?

With that said, I am Audi 5000 y’all!

Today I have Been Sober For 1 Month And 2 Days!

Binge Drinking Story # 1

Back in the summer of 2011, due to my weekend binge drinking getting out of control, I decided that it was time for me to voluntarily go to an inpatient alcohol rehab facility for 30 days. Then when I was released for good behavior, I went to an outpatient program 3 times a week after work, for a couple of months. I do have to mention, that I did stay sober for 5 years. 

Fast-forward to 2016, me being the weekend alcoholic that I have always been, I convinced myself, that after being sober for 5 years, I was going to be able to control my weekend drinking. Boy was I fucking wrong! So, I went back to my old weekend drinking habits.

As a matter of fact, my weekend binge drinking got so out of control in the last three years, that my last binge in 2019, lasted 9 days straight. Yes, you read that right… 9 DAYS OF NONSTOP DRINKING! I even got to the point, that I was literally drinking mouthwash, to cover up the alcohol smell in my breath, from my wife. To be honest, all that I did during those 9 days was drink, sleep, wake up, try to eat, drink some more and repeat.

Trust me, I’m not proud of what I did back then, but hey, shit happens, and there is nothing that I can do to take all that shit back. But here I am, 1 month and 1 day sober.

Today I have Been Sober For 1 Month And 1 Day!

My Experience With Hangxiety

I clearly remember that I started experiencing hangxiety, back in the mid 90’s, when I was in my mid 20’s, and I didn’t understand what the hell was going on. The thing is, that I have always been extremely shy and I suffer from social anxiety, so I used alcohol as a way to reduce both. But the next day, it heightened the feelings of anxiety that I already had, triggering depression and feelings of guilt or worthlessness.

A couple of weeks ago, one thing that I finally came to understand about my weekend binge drinking was, that because of my mental disorders, I was self-medicating, and in term I was just going in a vicious circle that was never going to end, unless I took action. Now, I can see that, but while I was in that circle, I couldn’t understand my destructive behavior. Not only that, but I haven’t had to deal with no hangxiety ever since.

With that said, I am Audi 5000 y’all! 

Today I Have Been Sober For 1 Month!